Note to self
Everything is energy. You have felt that all along. What makes you sad is that people so often deny the existence of that energy. That we are taught the importance of the stuff on top of the energy. That we are taught to find the truth there.
Coaches coach symptoms. The stuff “on top”. Not the energy. We seldom acknowledge the energy.
Today I rediscovered my truth. What I knew all along: the truth lies in the energy.
(Notes from Alan Seale’s TPLC course, March 2017)
Photo: Frances Dunn
Midlife
”I think midlife is when the universe gently places her hands upon your shoulders, pulls you close, and whispers in your ear:
I’m not screwing around. It’s time. All of this pretending and performing – these coping mechanisms that you’ve developed to protect yourself from feeling inadequate and getting hurt – has to go.
Your armor is preventing you from growing into your gifts. I understand that you needed these protections when you were small. I understand that you believed your armor could help you secure all of the things you needed to feel worthy of love and belonging, but you’re still searching and you’re more lost than ever.
Time is growing short. There are unexplored adventures ahead of you. You can’t live the rest of your life worried about what other people think. You were born worthy of love and belonging. Courage and daring are coursing through you. You were made to live and love with your whole heart. It’s time to show up and be seen.”
Brené Brown
Start Close In.
Start close in,
don’t take the second step
or the third,
start with the first
thing
close in,
the step
you don’t want to take.
Start with
the ground
you know,
the pale ground
beneath your feet,
your own
way to begin
the conversation.
Start with your own
question,
give up on other
people’s questions,
don’t let them
smother something
simple.
To hear
another’s voice,
follow
your own voice,
wait until
that voice
becomes an
intimate
private ear
that can
really listen
to another.
Start right now
take a small step
you can call your own
don’t follow
someone else’s
heroics, be humble
and focused,
start close in,
don’t mistake
that other
for your own.
Start close in,
don’t take
the second step
or the third,
start with the first
thing
close in,
the step
you don’t want to take.
© David Whyte
How we write.
“For it would seem – her case proved it – that we write, not with the fingers, but with the whole person. The nerve which controls the pen winds itself about every fibre of our being, threads the heart, pierces the liver.”
Virginia Woolf – Orlando
Secrecy versus discretion.
What is the difference between keeping a secret and being discreet?
I was asked the question. It’s an important question, but I’d never thought about it.
Think about it before you read what I have to say below…
Here’s my conclusion:
Secrecy contains a demand: “you must keep a secret”. A demand by one person to another.
Discretion, on the other hand, is voluntary. Someone tells me something which they don’t share with others. I treat this information with discretion, choosing to protect their privacy, or vulnerability. Discretion contains love. Secrecy doesn’t.
